Almost 3 years ago, my husband and I decided it was time for me to stay at home with our children. Prior to being a stay at home mom, I was a teacher in a local district for 7 years. I loved teaching and loved my students and my teams throughout the years. Some days I want to go back. But teaching just isn’t teaching anymore. The stress of teaching, and having two under two was crazy for me. We would have two in daycare which meant I would be working to pay for daycare, which didn’t make any sense to my husband and I.
I know what it is like to work outside of the home and have kids. I know what it is like to stay at home with kids and I know what it is like to be a work at home mom with kiddos at home with you. ALL are stressful! Women are the fiercest creatures, God created. This being said,
I had an interaction with a mom months ago and it has been on my mind every day since then.
It went something like this…
We said Hi, and introduced ourselves…
Then went straight to what do you do? (as in jobs)
I am a teacher…
oh ok cool, I used to teach…before kids.
Oh ok, what do you do now?
I stay at home with my kids now.
Oh, I could never be just a stay at home mom, and stare at the walls all day…
(End of conversation)
Do y’all know how little I felt at that moment? I wanted to shrink into a tiny ant and leave. But I couldn’t. I pretended everything was alright. “Just a stay at home mom”…those words played over and over in my head forever. I started to question myself, what do I even do all day? Why doesn’t the laundry get washed and put away in the same day? Why is the sink always full of dishes? Why am I so tired at the end of the day, if I “just stay at home” with kids all day?
But why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we judge each other for whatever reason? Why do we compare ourselves?
All Moms have so many different jobs. I am talking about stay at home moms, work at home moms, work outside the home mommas…ALL MOMS. ALL of the jobs that we have are hard, on top of raising our children.
You are raising tiny humans, (#exhausting) that is the most important job you will EVER have! On some days you may not see the rewards but they are there, I promise. I catch myself when moms ask what I do, I say “I’m just a mom”.
I just wanted to let you know that you ARE MORE THAN “JUST A MOM”. You are their leader and role model, a boo boo kisser, their short order cook for breakfast, lunch and dinner (let’s be honest), maid(clothes, laundry, dishes that NEVER stop), dance teacher even if you have mom moves, taxi driver, soccer coach and I could go on and on. But know that you are LOVED. Your kids love YOU for YOU. They don’t care about how your hair looks, or how your make up looks, or if you have designer clothes. Just love the time with your kiddos and make all the memories because that is what counts the most.
I am taking my own advice. I know I am a good mom., the best mom for my children. I hope we continue to create a community of moms that support each other. We are all different, but the same. Let’s build each other up, not down.